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Quotations

Quotations provide insight, inspiration, or a good laugh. With that in mind, here are a few I like:

“The belief that one’s own view of reality is the only reality is the most dangerous of all delusions.” - Paul Watzlawick 

The reason why truth is so much stranger than fiction is that there is no requirement for it to be consistent.” - Mark Twain

We can’t all do everything.” - Virgil 

 There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” - Washington Irving

“From there to here,
from here to there,
funny things are everywhere.” - Dr. Seuss

Tips for Increasing Anxiety

A few days ago, I added an entry on Tips for Decreasing Anxiety. But sometimes it’s easier for people to focus on avoiding something rather than trying to accomplish something. With that in mind, here is a list of ways you can really increase your stress and anxiety levels (in other words, these are what to avoid).

Tips for Increasing Anxiety and Adding Stress to Your Life

  • Dwell on something all day and night without making any plans to change the situation.
  • Criticize yourself for not being successful in 100% of what you did today.
  • Neglect your nutrition and rest regularly.
  • Don’t ever go for relaxing walks or work out.
  • Skip showering or bathing.
  • Don’t set any goals in your life.
  • Set goals that are so ridiculous you won’t be able to achieve them until you are 110 years old.
  • Vent your problems to people that have spread gossip about you based on what you confided in them at other times.
  • Eat your lunch as fast as you can, and don’t allow yourself to enjoy any of it.
  • Drink caffeine in large quantities throughout the day and evening hours.
  • Complain to yourself every single minute you aren’t able to fall asleep.
  • Add several topics to every simple conversation you have. 
  • Don’t ever pray.
  • Smoke cigarettes or chew tobacco regularly.
  • Be critical of yourself anytime you happen to look in a mirror.
  • Spend more time trying to motivate yourself than actually doing what you need or want to do.

Now, in case you want some tips for bringing down anxiety and stress levels, here’s the link to the other entry:   http://mentalemotionalhealth.com/2008/02/22/tips-for-decreasing-anxiety/ .

Oops!

Well, in case any of you had some problems leaving comments or navigating the site here the last few days, things have been resolved. Obviously I’m more confident and skilled in the area of mental health than website design and management.

So today’s advice is: know your limits and work within them when it comes to technology.

Therapy Simplified

I decided today would be a good day to write about the basic steps involved in the therapy process. My hope is that for those of you that want to know what to expect in therapy, this entry and others on this website will provide some guidance. After all, it’s easier to feel comfortable in a new place once you get your bearings. 

Mental health services generally include 4 defined steps to therapy. Each provider or clinic will vary in style and procedures.  But these are the stages you can expect. 

1.  Initial contact.  This is the first contact you have with the therapist or agency.   Initial contact usually means talking to a receptionist, intake worker, or the therapist directly over the phone or in person.  At this point, an appointment may be scheduled,  you may be asked a few questions about what kind of help you are looking for, possibly asked about a brief history of the problem, and how urgent you feel the need is to see someone.
2.  Intake.  During this stage, all the necessary information is obtained from you in order to start therapy.  You are usually informed what the fees will be for the service, asked to fill out some forms about your insurance or income information,  possibly an individual or family history form, and forms where you give consent to receive services.  At intake, you also should receive information explaining policies governing confidentiality and the privacy of your records.  Sometimes an office worker or receptionist leads you through the intake process.  Other times, the therapist you will work with goes through intake with you directly.
3.  Therapy.  Congratulations, you are now free to dump your questions onto another human being who is trained to listen to you and help you.  I used the word “dump” because I sometimes think of a dump truck and how at first only a trickle of stuff comes out.  As the truck bed lifts higher and higher, the force of gravity eventually exceeds the force of friction holding the stuff in. 

To explain this metaphor to therapy, each person has a truck bed containing stuff to talk about.  At first, only a little seeps out.  You’ve just met this counselor.  Trust and rapport are being developed.  It is natural to say a few things and test your new therapist to see how he or she responds.  After trust and rapport have been established well enough, the gravity of therapy overcomes your natural resistance to opening up and discussing your deeper thoughts and feelings. (I love metaphors, don’t you?)
4.  Termination.  That sounds so brutal doesn’t it?  Termination is just a word that simply means the therapeutic relationship is coming to an end.  Depending on the length and nature of the therapy you have been involved in, the ending of this relationship usually brings a mix of feelings, somewhat like a personal relationship.  It is normal to feel loss, relief, doubt, closure, fear, hope, or any number of emotions.  These emotions are present in the therapist as well as the client.

Those are the basic steps to therapy. I left out more details because each place is going to handle these steps in their own way, and providers change their procedures from time to time.

 Feel free to leave a comment or question.

Tips for Decreasing Anxiety

I see people with Anxiety symptoms in my office as much or more than I see people with Depression symptoms. Anxiety is a large category with many different signs, but I’ll put it in the simplest terms I can. With Anxiety, you’re nervous about something specific or everything in general. Mentally, you either have difficulty focusing on any one subject or you feel you cannot help but focus on one subject. Emotionally, you could experience a range of feelings from uneasy to worried to panicked. Physically, you might notice tight muscles, headaches, stomach discomfort or pain, or shortness of breath, or other signs.

So what can you do? Here is a short list to get you started, but everyone has their own methods that tend to work better for them. The important thing here is to use what works.

Tips for Decreasing Anxiety
- Deep breathing (breathe from your belly, not your chest, and a little slower than normal)
- Distracting, pleasurable activities
- Exercise
- Meditation
- Positive self-talk (mentally say reassuring things to yourself)
- Talking to a trustworthy person
- Martial arts
- Eliminating or cutting down caffeine intake
- Training your mind to slow down
- Making preparations instead of just worrying