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Repressed vs Suppressed Memories

These are two psychological terms that can be easily confused. Here is a brief explanation: 

  • Repressed memories are involuntary; you don’t realize you have them.
  • Suppressed memories are voluntary; you consciously attempt to forget them.

 Here’s a little way to keep them separate: You choose what to eat at “sup”per, similar to choosing to try to put a memory out of you mind.

The Mind of a Child

Children really are wonderful. I’m constantly amazed with preschoolers and grade schoolers at the typical combination of concrete and creative thinking. They can imagine all kinds of things I wouldn’t even consider, but when I ask a simple question I forget how literal they can be.

A few months ago, I decided to ask my 4 year old son a profound question. We were driving in the car and I said, “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” Without hesitation he replied, “The chicken”. Not giving up, I asked, “Then where did the chicken come from?” Again without hesitation he said, in that isn’t-it-obvious tone, “The barn”.

When my son was about 3 years old, I walked into his room one afternoon and saw just about all his toys in front of his toybox and around the room. So being the logical-minded dad I asked how the mess had happened. He looked up at me, and in the sweetest lying voice I have ever heard, replied, “Darth Vader messed up my room.”

Children have powerful imaginations, and I have told several adults in my therapy office to start daydreaming again. Something happens during those adolescent years when society and adults tend to grind out our childlike creativity and expect us to use grown-up creativity.

That childlike thinking is a blessing and can help us all feel younger. How often do you hear from people, “I’m getting old”, or “I feel so old”? I’m all for experience and being productive, but let your mind play daily. You may find energy you forgot you had.

Hope

I heard this earlier today, and had to write it here: If you are talking to someone who has lost their hope, loan them some of yours.

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Simplified

There are several different strategies and interventions that are considered part of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. But to really simplify things, this is the basic goal of the Cognitive-Behavioral approach: 

Identify your negative thoughts and behaviors, and replace them with healthy/positive thoughts and behaviors.

Suicide Prevention

Please don’t commit suicide.

Here are some resources if you or someone you know might be at risk for suicide:

You can also talk with your physician, counselor, therapist, psychiatrist, physician’s assistant, nurse practitioner, life coach, spiritual leader, or anyone else in a designated helping role.

Just don’t give up. Part of suicidality can be feeling and thinking suicide is the best or only option. That is the absolute best time in your life to get a second opinion. 

Please don’t commit suicide.