Evaluate Yourself . . . To a Point
I am one of those people that processes most of the day. By that I mean I think about situations and how I fit into them, what I could have done differently, what I might say in the next conversation, etc. You would think I am a perfectionist with all that going on frequently in my head. I have some perfectionist qualities, but I don’t consider myself one. You could say I am not a perfect perfectionist.
What keeps me from the frequent or constant anxiety of being a perfectionist is in the way I evaluate myself. The most productive way to evaluate yourself is to take an attitude of curiosity. When you are truly curious, you are less critical.
Example:
Critical - Ugh! Why did I say THAT?
Curious - That’s interesting. I wonder why I said that.
It is okay to examine how you think, act, and speak. Just try to be more objective, with a curious attitude. Avoiding self-criticism helps you feel better anyway.
